Stop Playing Small: Why His Opinions Don’t Get to Define Your Future

Let’s get one thing straight:
He doesn’t get to define you anymore.
Not who you are.
Not what you deserve.
Not what you're capable of becoming.

I don’t care what he called you.
I don’t care how many people he convinced to see you through his distorted lens.
I don’t care if he made you feel like you were crazy, unworthy, dramatic, broken, too much, or not enough.

That was his projection. Not your truth.

And if you're still tiptoeing around life, dimming your light, or second-guessing every move because you're afraid of how he'll react
It's time to reclaim your future.

This post is your permission slip to stop playing small.
Not someday. Not when you're “fully healed.”
Right now

The Damage of Living According to His Opinions

Let’s name what emotional abuse actually steals from you:

• Your voice
  
  

• Your sense of worth
  
  

• Your ability to trust your own judgment
  
  

• Your desire to take up space
  
  

• Your belief in your own damn magic
  
  

You start shrinking to survive:

• You stop speaking up
  
  

• You question every decision
  
  

• You stay silent to avoid being “too much”
  
  

• You dream smaller because it feels safer
  
  

But here’s the truth:
You’re not too much. He was just too small to hold you.

The Internalized Critic (a.k.a. His Voice in Your Head)

Even after he’s gone, the damage lingers.
It sounds like:

• “No one will take me seriously.”
  
  

• “I’m probably being selfish.”
  
  

• “What if I fail and prove him right?”
  
  

• “Who am I to want that kind of life?”
  
  

That voice that keeps holding you back?
It’s not yours.
It’s his.
And it’s time to evict him from your mind.

How to Take Your Power Back One Bold Move at a Time

1. Call Out the Lie. Reclaim the Truth.

Write down every phrase he used to cut you down.
Then write a counter-truth next to it.

What He Said

What’s Actually True

“You’re crazy”

I trust my intuition.

“No one else would love you”

I am deeply lovable, exactly as I am.

“You’ll never make it without me”

I already have—and I’m just getting started.

This is your truth inventory. Revisit it every damn time you hear his voice echoing in your head.

2. Make a Loud, Visible Move He Thought You’d Never Make

Apply for the job.
Start the business.
Take the solo trip.
Launch the podcast.
Post the picture.
Change your last name.
Wear the bold lipstick.
Say the thing out loud that he swore would make people hate you.

Reclaiming your future means doing the things he didn’t believe you could, for you, not to prove a damn thing to him.

3. Rewrite the Narrative He Tried to Trap You In

He told the world a version of you that served his image.
Let them see the real one now.

You don’t need to defend your reputation, you need to own your reality.

Try:

• “I’m not here to convince you. I’m here to live fully.”
  
  

• “Their comfort is not more important than my truth.”
  
  

• “I’m not afraid of being misunderstood anymore. I’m afraid of staying silent.”
  
  

4. Set Fire to the “Good Girl” Rules

You were taught to:

• Be agreeable
  
  

• Be likable
  
  

• Be polite
  
  

• Be quiet
  
  

• Be nice
  
  

You weren’t taught to be powerful.
So the moment you start taking up space, setting boundaries, and using your voice, people will say:

• “You’ve changed.”
  
  

• “You’re too much.”
  
  

• “You’re selfish.”
  
  

Let them talk.
You’re not here to be digestible. You’re here to be free.

5. Design a Future That’s Bigger Than His Limits

His words were built to keep you small because he was terrified of your power.
You don’t owe him a single second more of your silence or hesitation.

So now, ask yourself:

• “If I wasn’t afraid of being judged, what would I do?”
  
  

• “If I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I go after?”
  
  

• “What version of me terrifies him the most? …That’s the one I want to become.”
  
  

UNLEASHED is built to start this exact rebirth. We start with releasing his voice and end with you fully unleashed.

You’ve Got This and I’ve Got You

You are not his opinion of you.
You are not the worst thing he ever said about you.
You are not the girl who couldn’t leave, or the woman who stayed too long.

You are the woman who got out.
Who is healing.
Who is rebuilding.

And babe?
You’re just getting started.

It’s time to play big.
Out loud. On purpose. Without apology

Step Into the Life He Tried to Convince You You’d Never Have:

• UNLEASHED: Your trauma-informed healing program to start breaking free, rebuild your identity, and reclaim your confidence. Sign up through the contact form on the homepage and I’ll send you all the info!
  
  

• The Boundary Setting Blueprint ($9): Stop shrinking. Start enforcing. Your peace starts here